I keep on thinking 'man people are staring at me, are they being homophobic or...?' and then I remember I have this pattern shaved into my legs

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  1. my favorite answer when people ask this is 'to make you ask' bc their response is always this
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  1. i like the feeling of smooth leg against leg
  2. it keeps me cool
  3. I however do not want people to gender me as feminine because I have no leg hair and it makes me dysphoric to have my legs entirely shaved
  4. very important distinction to me personally between 'this person I assume is a woman is doing her gender wrong because her legs aren't shaved.' vs 'i don't have a framework for how wrong this person is doing their gender'
  5. shaving them like this sends a message, and that message is 'i could shave my legs. if I wanted to' in a way shaving one does not, because it might send the message that I was interrupted halfway through

I've been doing this for going on three or four years now :)

roseate-felidae:

My wonderful Aussie friend. Its not just a fictional Vtmb thing.

The UK has a real furniture company called The Sofa king. Who used "where the prices are Sofa king low" and "I'm Sofa king happy". Until some people complained to Northampton advertising agency. It did this for 8 years and knew what they were doing.

WAIT THAT WAS REAL??!?!?

Also, some of you don’t actually know what enemies to lovers is huh... Where is the clashing of principles? The righteous fury? The gut wrenching guilt of having unwanted affection for someone who is actively trying to destroy everything you’ve worked your entire life to build? The overwhelming anger thrown at the object of your affection to mask your anger for yourself? The reluctant truce brought about by extenuating circumstances? The begruding birth of respect? The creeping realization that you are on the wrong side? The long agonizing journey to redemption? The slow quiet blossoming of a friendship? The underlying current of a desire that has always been there but you have never been in a position to act on before? The fear that your antagonistic history carries too much baggage? The resigned acceptance that a friendship is more than you are even worthy for? A heroic display that solidifies your position as one of the good guys? The epiphany of love and a hint that it might not be so unrequited? The inevitable conclusion??

Honestly, you guys see two people on opposite sides and just skip to the lovers part....

Anonymous:

I’ll be honest, when one party’s aiding and abetting the genocide and the other’s outright gonna kill all my friends, I don’t really care if the fascists “win”. They’ve won already.

beatrice-otter:

You know who would be delighted to hear that? Trump and Putin. The US far right and the Russian government have poured lots of time, effort, and money over the last decade+ into convincing US leftists and liberals that things are hopeless, there’s no point in even trying to make things better, and the Democrats and Republicans are functionally interchangeable. They do this because one of the easiest ways for them to win is if the left gives up and stops trying. Every person on the left they can convince to give up in despair brings them closer to complete control. Defeatism on the left actively supports victory on the right.

I think your statement is wrong on a number of levels, both factual and emotional. It comes from not understanding what the actual options are for the US government and the President specifically, either at home or abroad. And it will allow actual fascism to flourish and make the world far worse than it is now.

On an emotional level, the way to address this is to stop doomscrolling. Stop focusing on the worst things happening in the world. Don’t ignore them! but don’t let them consume you. Start looking for the things that are going well. Find places in your community that you can get involved in making things better. Even if it’s only on a small scale like volunteering in a soup kitchen or homeless shelter, it will help you realize that you aren’t helpless, that there are things that can be done to make the world a better place. Stay informed about things on a local, national, and international level, but limit how much time and attention you give to things that depress you that you can’t affect. Instead of sitting there thinking about all the ways the world sucks and how awful things are, look for things you can do that are productive, and then do them. You’ll feel better and you will have made your corner of the world a little better. And you will be a lot less likely to unintentionally fall into the despair, nihilism, and passivity that the fascists want you to be consumed by.

Always remember that the worlds problems are not resting solely on your shoulders, or solely on America’s shoulders, and neither is the hope of fixing them. Everyone has things that we can do to make the world a better place, but there are also things that are beyond our control. We can control what we do; we cannot control what others do. We can and should try to make the world a better place, but focusing on the things we can’t change has no positive benefits. Focusing on things we can’t change accomplishes two things: it makes you feel bad, and it stops you from doing the things you actually can do to make things better. Neither of these things is good for you or anyone else. Look for things you can do and do them. Keep informed on the things you can’t change, but don’t focus on them.

On a factual level, let’s look at “aiding and abetting genocide,” shall we?

First, it’s important to remember that the US President is not the God-Emperor Of The World. The US government has limits to what it can and can’t do in other countries, and both legally and practically. If the US wants to intervene in a problem in another country, there are a variety of things we can do that boil down to basically four categories. It’s a lot more complex than this in practice, of course, but in general here are the categories of things we can do:

  1. Send in the troops. Invade, either by ourselves or as part of a NATO or UN operation. (Or maybe just send in a CIA wetworks team to assassinate the head of state.) I hope you can see the moral problems with this option, and also, we’ve done this a shitton of times over the course of the 20th Century and pretty much every time we’ve done it, we’ve made an already awful situation worse. On a moral level, it’s pretty bad, and on a practical level, it’s worse. Sure, we could stop the immediate problem, but what then? Consider Afghanistan and Iraq. We got rid of Saddam Hussein and the Taliban, and everything went to shit, we spent twenty years occupying Afghanistan with pretty much nothing to show for it. (The Taliban is back in control of Afghanistan.) Things were worse when we left than when we arrived. So this option is pretty much off the table (or should be).
  2. Diplomatic pressure. Now, the thing is, they’re a sovereign nation, they don’t have to listen to us if they don’t want to. We have a lot of things we can leverage–including financial aid–but the only way to force them to do what we want is to invade and conquer, and that only works temporarily. Since we can’t force, we have to persuade. This requires us to maintain our existing relationship with the country in question, and possibly strengthen it, because that relationship is what we’re leveraging to try and influence them to do what we want them to do. If we do not maintain our relationship, they have no reason to listen to us.
  3. Cut ties and go home. Break off any existing relationship and support, loudly proclaim that they’re awful and doing awful things and we wash our hands of the whole situation. This keeps our own hands lily-white and pure, but it also means we have zero leverage to work on any kind of a diplomatic solution. They have no reason to listen to us or care about what we think. We can pat ourselves on the back for doing the right thing, but we destroy our own ability to influence anything. Not just now, but also in the future. Let’s say the current crisis ends, and then ten years later there’s another crisis. If we want to have any effect then, we would have to start from square one to start building a relationship. Cutting ties would be great for making Americans feel better about ourselves, and there are times when it’s the only option, but it should be a last resort. If there is any hope of being able to influence things for the better this will destroy it at least temporarily.
  4. Cut ties and impose sanctions. Break off any existing relationship and support, loudly proclaim that they’re awful and doing awful things, but also use the might of the American economy to isolate and punish them. We’ve done this a lot over the 20th Century, too, and it has never actually resulted in the country in question buckling down and toeing the line we want them to. What happens is the sanctioned country has an economic shock (how long it lasts and how bad it gets depends on a lot of factors) and then pulls themselves back together economically, except this time they’re more self-sufficient and less reliant on international trade and financial networks. They tell themselves that America is evil and the cause of all their problems, and so not only do they not listen to us, they actively hate us. And they have fewer international relationships, so fewer reasons to care about what the international community thinks about them. So they’re most likely to double down on whatever it is they’re doing that we don’t like. This one is completely counterproductive and utterly stupid. It’s great for making Americans feel better about ourselves, but if we actually care about being able to use our influence for good (or, at least, to mitigate evil) this option shoots us in the foot. It encourages other nations to do the very thing we’re trying to stop them from doing.

So, with those four options in mind, both option one (invasion/assassination) and option four (sanctions) are off the table for being immoral and counterproductive. That leaves “breaking our relationship and going home” and “using diplomatic pressure” as our only two viable options.

Biden has chosen option two, diplomatic pressure. Yes, he and our government have continued financial support for Israel … but with strings attached. They have put limits on it that have never been put on any US foreign aid before. They have taken legal steps to lay the groundwork to target Israeli settlers (i.e. Israeli citizens who confiscate Palestinian homes and businesses). We’ve been hearing reports for months that Benjamin Netanyahu (Israeli Prime Minister, and a far-right-wing demagogue) hates Biden’s guts, because Biden is pressuring him to stop the genocide and work towards peace. Biden is maintaining the relationship, and he’s using that relationship to try and influence things to curb the violence and pave the way for a just peace settlement of some sort. Biden has also mentioned the possibility of a two state solution where Palestine becomes its own completely separate country. That’s huge, because up until this point the US position has always been that Israel is the only possible legitimate nation in that territory. If Biden stopped US support for Israel, it wouldn’t force Israel to stop what it’s doing … but it would let them ignore us. It would remove any leverage or influence we might have.

Biden’s hands aren’t clean. But the only way for them to be clean would be to also give up any chance of influencing the situation or working to protect Palestinians now or in the future. Only time will tell if it works, but I personally would rather have someone who tried and failed than someone who didn’t even try. You might disagree about whether this is the right course of action, and there’s a lot of room for honest disagreement about the issue (there’s a lot of nuances that I’m glossing over or ignoring). But please do acknowledge that Biden isn’t supporting Israel because he supports genocide; he’s doing it so that he can continue to maintain diplomatic pressure on Israel to stop the violence.

Which brings us back to “aiding and abetting genocide.” Trump is not like Biden. Trump is good friends with Netanyahu and backs Israel to the hilt. Trump thinks that all Arabs are terrorists (and all Muslims are terrorists) and genuinely believes the world would be a better place with them dead. Biden is continuing to support Israel, but using that support as influence to get them to stop or slow down. Trump would be using that influence to encourage them.

And those are the two choices. Someone who is trying to curb the genocide, and someone who actively supports it.

I really hope you can see the significant and substantial difference between those two positions.

But let’s say that you’re right and Biden’s policy towards Israel and Palestine is every bit as bad as Trump’s would be. If there was nothing to choose between them on foreign policy grounds, there would still be a shitton to choose between them on domestic policy grounds. You admit that the right wants to kill your friends, and yet you don’t seem to think that stopping them from killing your friends might be a good thing to do.

“We can’t save Palestinians, so we might as well let Republicans destroy the rights, lives, and futures of LGBTQ+ people, women, people of color, people with disabilities, poor people, non-Christians, and anyone else they don’t like.” “We can’t save Palestinians, so why bother to try to save the people we might actually be able to save.” “We can’t save Palestinians right now, so there’s no point in trying to build up a longer-term political bloc that might drag US politics to the left over the long run.”

Do you get why there’s a problem with that line of thought?

I made someone on bsky big mad when they said they weren't going to vote, so this was very timely. I'm sure they've blocked or muted me, since I already muted them because I don't have time for that nonsense.

There is some good stuff here, but I think we need to understand more about the incentives and the pressure points here.

The vote is important, but also only the least of the tools we can use. Biden does have an incentive to end the genocide for foreign policy reasons (it will generate more support for Hamas and risks spilling over into a regional war), but a big part of the unprecedented decisions to date, with conditions on aid and sanctions to certain Israeli units, is from massive public pressure at home.

There's a huge protest movement in favor of Palestine, as well as major shifts in public opinion on the issue. The Undecided campaign had a major impact, too. Public pressure from protest movements needs to be maintained.

There is some talk that the US is making moves to get statehood for Palestine. That would greatly improve the lives and safety of Palestinians moving forward. It's coming too late for a lot of people, undoubtedly, but pressure is moving the needle.

And I don't know to what degree things will be resolved before the election. It's difficult to say. But I would guarantee that Trump would stop listening and instead try to crush the protestors (as we have seen him do before), possibly to the point of causing an insurgency. And he might even torpedo any Israel/Palestine deal even if it has been resolved to some degree -- another thing we've seen before with the Iran nuclear deal.

I know that it's very difficult to deal with these differences when there's images of children dying. I don't really like the choices we have. But please view the vote as just one piece of the overall picture. If you can do more, please do.

a part of adult life you never really realize as a child is the constant need for bowls in so many different sizes. you're always doing something and going "man i wish i had the right size bowl for this" no matter how many bowl sizes you have

True and sincere answer to all of the people who ask, "I have just seen X animal, what does this mean?":

Rejoice, my friend, for this is a most auspicious sign! You have received one of the greatest blessings known to human kind: you live in a world full of creatures! Take comfort and enjoy this divine blessing.